You run from work, to soccer practice, to piano recital, to the McDonald’s drive-thru, and then home late. There you brush past your spouse, who was running just as fast in the other direction, and so you quickly acknowledge one another’s presence. But before you do anything else you realize the family needs to get some food down, get homework done, get baths finished, then bedtime. And perhaps after doing a little bit of cleaning you hit the bed exhausted yourself.
Before long, you realize you are drifting apart from the person you were at one time very close to. You’re not sure how it happened, or where it all went wrong, but your love is cold, your relationship distant, and you feel like two people on two completely different planets.
Paul Meyer said, “Communication—the human connection—is the key to personal and career success.” If this is true, I think here in lies one of the reasons why marriages are in such a bad shape today. Because if communication is the human connection, and is the key to personal success, then no wonder we are drifting apart. No wonder we are feeling like we don’t know our spouse any longer. We are no longer communicating, we are simply running around. We are like two ships passing in the night.
If souls are to bond together they need a communion which can only be realized through communication. And not just monologues, but communication where there is giving and receiving and blessing. And this can happen, but you have to understand what it takes to have this kind of communication.
If you would like to know more about the kind of communication that truly connects, then join us at Redeemer Church as we walk through the details this Sunday of what good communication in marriage is all about.
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Read Part 1 of this series: The Fine Art of Blame Shifting