It was my son’s first field trip as a kindergartener and I’d been given the task of keeping tabs on him and another boy while we explored the museum. We spent the morning running from one exhibit to another and as lunch time came for the boys, I slipped into the ladies room.
As I opened the door, my eyes locked with another Mom’s, as she quickly finished up in her stall. She’d left the door open and she had a baby strapped to her in a carrier. Embarrassed, she frantically apologized. Then she went on to explain that her 3 year old was washing his hands and she needed to use the bathroom, so she left the stall door open. Without even blinking an eye, I stepped into my stall, closed the door and quickly told her about how I have 3 kids of my own and because of them, literally nothing phases me anymore. And then in our own stalls, we laughed together.
No judgment. Only connection. You know why? Because Every. Single. Time. Connection needs to win.
Comparison steals our joy and comparison steals connections that can turn into something beautiful. I used to feel like I needed to work harder on not comparing, but now I just want to work harder on connecting with those I spend time with.
We need to strive for connection to be an example for our kids. Our daughters need to see us having healthy relationships with other women. And we need to strive for connection because we owe it to ourselves. We are uniquely and wonderfully made. We are children of the King and He created us to connect and be better together.
As you go into this new week, possibly feeling nervous about a meeting or a new social situation, remind yourself that you can either compare or connect and that you can only choose one.
I’ve been working on this in my own life and my eyes have opened to how amazing the people are around me. The cool thing is, instead of wanting to be like them, God has been allowing me to see how wonderful we ALL are…and that includes YOU.
Who can you connect with this week?