Jen Hatmaker’s new book “For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards” is here! This book is a MUST READ. Stop right now and get this book.
This book set me free from some unrealistic expectations I had for myself. Admit it, you do this to yourself too? I’m not unrealistic. Stop it. You are.
I love people more.
My perspective of community has grown and changed and I have seen firsthand that it is POSSIBLE to have a safe, beautiful place of sharing, loving, truth-telling.
I think that is the real prize of this book – the community I saw formed as a result. When 500 of us were chosen to be part of Jen Hatmaker’s book launch team, I don’t think we really knew what was about to happen.
I’ve never been that great at community. It’s hard for me to share my heart. I fear judgement. As a mom I always feel like someone is going to put down my choices. People often do put down my choices. And, don’t even get me started on social media. Love/hate!
And, then, I saw for myself a gathering of women that was beautiful, authentic, real, transparent, grace-filled. Suddenly, I didn’t have to be afraid.
Jen Hatmaker did not write a book, she wrote a community.
You guys, real community is possible. WE CAN LOVE EACH OTHER without fear of judgement, hate and disrespect. We can talk about things that are hard, we can laugh together and we can hold each other when it hurts. Let’s do that. Let’s talk about what is on your heart and trust each other to hold our pain when it just hurts too much to breathe. Let’s laugh together over anything that surrounds us. Let’s hash it out when we don’t agree, in a kind way, but let’s learn from each other. Let’s know each other. Let’s be ourselves.
I remember one day I was walking into Starbucks and there was a gal in front of me in line. She was put together. She had a ncie bag, expensive clothes. Her children were well-behaved and standing nicely. You guys, my children never stand nicely. It’s not a thing they do. I looked at her and listed in my mind the 100 things that I thought were different about us. I didn’t even know her. Do you ever do this? Make up stories in your head about other people without even so much as a whisper exchanged between the two of you?
I’m not going to do this anymore. Will you join me? Instead of thinking first about every little thing that makes us different can we agree to instead think about our similarities? Because, really, at the true heart of where we are I believe that we are all craving the same thing: Love, grace, joy, Jesus.
Did you know you can live a life without unrealistic expectations? You can actually trust yourself, believe in yourself, shine in your life with your talents and just live free. You guys, I just want this for all of you so much.
“We cannot do it all, have it all, or master it all. That is simply not a thing.” Nope, not even for you. Give it up. Move on. It’s okay, friend, it took me awhile to accept it too. But, when you do, life gets really good.
Oh, community. “As we witness this beautiful community, we aren’t just observing vulnerability but rather chains breaking, darkness receding, victory rising. We are watching the light win truth by truth, and when enough bright places are created, the dark has nowhere else to hide.”
We’ve got this. Jen Hatmaker’s book “For the Love” is a bright light full of truth in a world that is complicated and messy. You can have this freedom. Let’s start together.