Beyond things like great benefits, what are the top things you value in a workplace? For me it’s things like trust, care, flexibility and respect. I think I would be miserable in a job where my leadership team didn’t trust me or didn’t show me the respect and care I deserve as a person.
I was in a meeting discussing workplace culture when it hit me. I don’t treat my household the same way I treat my coworkers.
At work, I very much thrive on having a strong team to get results. At home, my husband and I are an awesome team. A 50/50 team that you don’t often find and I am so blessed in that way.
But do I too often try to be the lead?
My husband is responsible for dropping the kids off at daycare and school every morning. That’s a big job! I do things like make lunch for our school-aged son, get backpacks ready and sometimes lay out clothes for our two year old. I say it’s because I want to make life easier on my husband but sometimes I wonder if it’s actually just me micro-managing.
Is it possible that my actions are not showing the trust, care and respect that I truly feel for my husband?
(Don’t answer that.)
My kids are only five and two so they, of course, are not yet fully independent. My son only has homework on Fridays. I have a system with the homework folder and ensuring it gets done. My husband often helps him with it. But I always double-check it.
Ladies and gentlemen, he is in Pre-K. Is there really a need for me to double check the Pre-K work that my husband already ok’d?
I could blame this on the fact that I feel the need to constantly be going, going, going. I don’t sit often or easily to just relax. Ok, clearly I might also be a little type A. I don’t feel like a productive human being if I am not, well, being my definition of productive. I tell myself I do everything out of my absolute love for my family.
But what would it look like if I shifted the culture in my household to match that of my workplace?
My self challenge is to start a shift to ensure my actions show my family that I trust, care and respect them.
Can you relate to this? Do you need this challenge, too?
And, most importantly – are you up for it?