Ever since I wrote a blog about quitting dinner time I’ve been feeling a little guilty. I got some pushback about how I shouldn’t give up and that I need that time to make beautiful moments for my children.
And so I tried again.
It didn’t go well.
So I tried again. I figured I must be doing something wrong. Everyone I know can make magical dinner time memories, why not me!?
But, it just isn’t working, friends. Dinner time is not a good time of day for my children. They are tired and they eat a lot at breakfast and lunch generally so they are just not dinner time kids.
But still I had guilt. What is going to happen to my children if I don’t have the perfect dinner time? They aren’t going to feel loved. THEY ARE GOING TO DO DRUGS! Oh, the shame. (I may be slightly dramatic. Not sure!)
Then one day I was eating breakfast with my family, we were all around the table laughing, and I thought: We are doing this really well. We rock at breakfast.
And It dawned on me. Breakfast is one of my moments.
People, moms, everyone, hear this! There are not ‘right’ moments you need to have. It is not important to make certain right moments count. It is important to make your moments count. And each of us might have different ones, and that is what makes each family awesome and special.
So, while I am not making perfect special dinner time moments with my children, I am still making awesome moments with my children.
In fact, Here are a few Moments we made this week.
Making cookies with Ellie – my sweet girl thrives on doing. So this week during our sick day we made cookies.
Eating Popsicles – she loves special things and to help her little tummy ache we ate Popsicles. What could be better?
Playing with Noah – this boy thrives on time together. Slowing down and playing makes moments count with him.
Bedtime snuggles with Noah – this is when my boy opens up and it is the most special moment of our day. I love when he wants to pray together and talk about his day.
Mom who is struggling and trying to fit into a certain mold, stop. Embrace yourself and your family and your life. Focus on making memories and moments that are perfect for your family and don’t sweat the other stuff. Find your perfect moments and rock them!
Your challenge this week is to find your moments and recognize them.